{"id":633,"date":"2023-03-06T11:45:36","date_gmt":"2023-03-06T03:45:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/gen-e-sis.com\/blog\/2021\/02\/06\/blame-your-parents\/"},"modified":"2026-03-19T18:05:58","modified_gmt":"2026-03-19T10:05:58","slug":"blame-your-parents","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/handelbarweb.com\/blog\/blame-your-parents\/","title":{"rendered":"Syntax Errors in the Book of Parenting"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"800\" data-attachment-id=\"1255\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/handelbarweb.com\/blog\/blame-your-parents\/parents-2\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/handelbarweb.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/parents-2.png\" data-orig-size=\"800,800\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"parents\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/handelbarweb.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/parents-2-300x300.png\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/handelbarweb.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/parents-2.png\" src=\"https:\/\/handelbarweb.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/parents-2.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1255\" srcset=\"https:\/\/handelbarweb.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/parents-2.png 800w, https:\/\/handelbarweb.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/parents-2-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/handelbarweb.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/parents-2-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/handelbarweb.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/parents-2-768x768.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<span class=\"voice-tag\">Parental Recursion<\/span>\n<div class=\"post-intro\">\n  <p>\n    Teenage children: the ultimate debugger of your parental code. They expose your loops, glitches, legacy scripts\u2014without mercy and often without context. The fix? Forgive the past. Refactor the mess. Speak your truth. And yes, feed the poor. Just recursive love and a better idea.\n\n  <\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>The ideal time to discover you\u2019ve been thoroughly scrambled by your parents is when your own kids hit puberty. By then, you\u2019ve softened\u2014like overcooked peas\u2014and you finally grasp how easy it is to pass the dysfunction baton without even breaking stride.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No rebellion needed. Just a quiet recognition of the pattern you\u2019ve inherited.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>You begin to see what they did.<br>You forgive them for doing it.<br>You see them seeing it in you.<br>You see your kids seeing them in you.<br>And you forgive your kids for becoming you\u2014before they even know it\u2019s happening.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Congratulations. You\u2019ve become your parents\u2014digitally enhanced, emotionally buffering, and slightly more fluent in memes. The quirks you once mocked now squat rent-free in your own behavior, upgraded with better Wi-Fi and a subscription to existential dread. You\u2019ve inherited the sighs, the unsolicited advice, and the uncanny ability to misplace your glasses while wearing them. The rebellion was brief; the recursion, eternal. And somewhere between the smart thermostat and the third failed attempt to explain TikTok, you realize: the cycle didn\u2019t break\u2014it just got a software update.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So here\u2019s a thought: Un-mess yourself. Find your self. Be your-self. Proclaim your-self. And while you\u2019re at it\u2014feed the poor. Because someone should.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And on that note, when Jesus said, <em>\u201cThe poor you will always have with you,\u201d<\/em> it wasn\u2019t a shrug\u2014it was a challenge. A reminder that permanence doesn\u2019t excuse neglect. Poverty isn\u2019t a footnote to devotion\u2014it\u2019s the margin where compassion should be scribbled, loudly and often. The quote, often misused to justify inaction, actually echoes a deeper call: if the poor are always with us, then so should be our generosity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So feed the poor, because someone should. And if not you, then who\u2019s debugging the soul?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-amazon wp-block-embed-amazon\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child&#039;s Developing Mind\" type=\"text\/html\" width=\"678\" height=\"550\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen style=\"max-width:100%\" src=\"https:\/\/read.amazon.com\/kp\/card?preview=inline&#038;linkCode=ll1&#038;ref_=k4w_oembed_9IJLwAsBZth9yS&#038;asin=0553386697&#038;tag=genesiscom-20\"><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Parental Recursion Teenage children: the ultimate debugger of your parental code. They expose your loops, glitches, legacy scripts&mdash;without mercy and often without context. The fix? Forgive the past. Refactor the mess. Speak your truth. And yes, feed the poor. Just recursive love and a better idea. 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